Vibrations of Those Around You

In my last blog article I introduced the concept of "personal vibration and resonance".  This is a very wide topic, and there is lots to learn about it.  So I want to continue the theme here, focusing on the effects of other people's vibrations on us and how we can use our knowledge of this to great advantage.  You may find what I am saying a bit obscure.  If you do, bear with me.  Read this through several times and allow what I am saying here to percolate.  Even if you don't completely follow it intellectually, it will resonate with you at a deeper level and help you to achieve whatever you wish to achieve.

Just as a quick reminder, we all tend to "vibrate" in different ways, depending on how we have tuned ourselves.  There are different categories of this vibration.  At a high level we have spiritual, emotional, and mental vibrations.  Our main focus in life expresses itself in a vibration.  Our desires and ambitions result in vibrations.  The things and people we love or hate result in different vibrations.  We also have permanent vibrations (which we can still change, even though they are permanent) and temporary vibrations.  For example we may have a high level permanent spiritual vibration which results from a genuine love of everyone around us, but that doesn't stop us having "low" moments, perhaps when our spiritual battery is low, when we find it difficult to feel that love.

We can be strongly influenced by the vibrations of those around us.  This is especially the case if we are not well tuned.  The weaker our underlying "permanent" vibration, the easier it will be for people around us to make us resonate to a very different vibration.  It is also the case if we have a very strong underlying vibration and those around us have a similar vibration - then we will begin to resonate almost as soon as they approach us, will be like a sounding board to which they are applying their tuning fork.

This means we need constantly to work on two things.

Firstly we need to get our vibrations tuned properly.  What that means in practice depends on what you are trying to achieve.  If you have a big dream, and if it will cost a lot of money to achieve that dream, you need to have the right vibrations to attract the right money-making opportunities to you.  You also need to eliminate the vibrations that work counter to this - for example the feeling that becoming wealthy is in some way a bad thing.  Or if you want your life to spread love in the world, you need to ensure you are tuned to radiate that love completely naturally.  At the same time you need to be alert to ways you react to people and situations which are not in tune with this vibration of love and work on ways of changing this.

Secondly, we need to become more aware of the vibrational levels of the people around us.  If they are similar to our own vibrational levels, perfect!  Try to ensure you keep those people with you.  The closer you can get them, and the longer you stay with them, the more your own vibrations will resonate with them.  If you are trying to become wealthy and then use that wealth for good purposes, surround yourself as much as possible with others who are on that same path but, hopefully, further ahead than you.

Be aware of both the permanent and the temporary vibrations of those people.  If they drop a level temporarily, by all means try to be there for them to help them move back up.  But keep in mind all the time that you will tend to resonate in tune with them, so do not spend so much time being there for them and helping them that there is a clear drop in your own vibrations.  It is important to get this balance right.  Certainly do not become a "fair weather friend" who is happy to be there when everything is positive but who disappears the moment they have any problems.  Help them now, and some time in the future when you need some help they will probably be there for you and help you.

Start right now on both these major projects.  Strengthen your desire for what you want to achieve and work on your inner vibrations to make sure you are properly tuned to achieve it.  But also find and befriend people who are in tune with you, and start distancing yourself from those who are completely out of tune with you.  Perhaps join groups or clubs where you are more likely to find people similarly tuned.

If you do all this you should find yourself becoming far happier, achieving far more than you had previously managed, and being far more fulfilled.

Using Metaphors to Influence and Persuade

by

Linda Cattelan

Did you know that we use about six metaphors per minute in the English language? Are you aware that our unconscious mind thinks and responds best to symbolic language i.e. metaphors? Did you know that all learning and change occurs at the unconscious level?

A metaphor is a story told with a purpose which allows us to bypass conscious resistance in order to make connections at a deeper level. By telling stories you engage the other person's curiosity and thereby create the opportunity for direct dialogue with their unconscious mind.

Milton Erickson, a Psychiatrist and Psychotherapist who specialized in medical hypnosis and family therapy for over 60 years, was famous for his metaphorical approach through storytelling. He was renowned not only for his approach to the unconscious mind as creative and solution generating but also for making a large impact on the developers of NLP.

Milton was a master at using abstract and ambiguous language patterns to match his client's experience by assisting his client in accessing unconscious resources in order to pace and lead his client's behavior through a story.

Most of the time, an effective metaphor will result in the other person totally associating or connecting to the character or event in the story. In this sense, metaphors are effective for inducing and creating a trance-like state. When you induce trance, you are communicating directly to the unconscious mind.

Through the use of metaphors we have a huge opportunity to creatively affect change within others. Therefore becoming artistic in the use of metaphors can really make a difference in helping others to move forward. You are already using metaphors in your language and therefore unconsciously impacting others in ways you may not even be aware of. As previously stated, we use several metaphors per minute in our general language already. Becoming self-aware of the language we use and its impact on others is not only useful but important. NLP teaches us how to intentionally use metaphors and language patterns to create desired change and insights in others.

Language is the middle name in NLP (Neuro Linguistic Programming). So in that sense, NLP is a linguistic way of communicating with others on a regular basis.

I have several metaphors I use with my coaching clients when I am trying to make a point. For example; I like to use the analogy of a hockey game in progress as a metaphor for perspectives work. The hockey player is in total fovial vision focused only on what is before him/her. The view is narrow and at this level, the game is fast moving, decisions are made quickly with no time to fully anticipate the impact. From a Coach's view from the bench, the Coach is able to see a much broader perspective of the game. The game actually appears slower from this standpoint. The Coach is able to anticipate not only the player's probable action but also the chain of reaction the play will cause. Now, imagine moving further out to high in the stands of the hockey arena. From this vantage you can really see what is going on in the bigger picture. The game really slows down and you can be much more objective than when you are right in the middle of the play as the player. Whenever I use this metaphor, clients can really remove themselves from a perspective they are holding when I ask them to become an observer in the stands.

In addition to having a toolkit of metaphors at the ready, designing a specific metaphor to address someone's specific problem or issue is ideal.

Here are 4 steps to consider when designing a metaphor to use with others:

1. Define the person's problem or issue 
2. Determine the person's desired outcome 
3. Ask yourself: "What is this an example of?" You are looking for a story or metaphor that will get the other person from where they are now to their desired outcome without their conscious connection or awareness 
4. Tell your metaphor

Milton Erickson was notorious for telling stories about his vegetable garden when working with weight loss clients. He would speak about how beautiful his tomatoes were and how the tomatoes knew exactly how to take in just the right amount of water, sun and nutrients from the soil in order to grow to just the right size and shape. His clients would hear these stories and sometimes become upset that Milton was using their therapy time to talk about his vegetable garden. However, over time the clients would start to lose weight and reach their goals.

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