How to Transform Limiting Beliefs to Achieve Success

by

Rosa C Murphy

We all have self-limiting beliefs in one way or another. However, if we want to be successful we need to learn to let go of these beliefs; beliefs like denial and resistances. Many of these self-limiting beliefs result from stories that we have created in our mind. When bad things happens we tend to defend, over rationalize or protect ourselves as part of our survival instinct. Unfortunately these kinds of behaviors keep us from moving forward.

Do you make excuses for procrastinating? Do you blame others for your lower performance at work? Are you blaming your excessive weight on your genetics? If so, it's time to learn how to make some mental adjustments so that you can really enjoy your life and experience a much more abundant and fulfilling life.

Abundant and prosperous people face the same difficulties and discomforts that the rest of us do but they have learned how to take appropriate actions to avoid negative consequences.

The basic principle to learn is to take responsibility for your life. It is up to us to be successful, overcome challenges and deal with drawbacks. Sometimes there are things out of our control, but we can choose to acknowledge this situation, understand the red flags, find a detour, keep moving and take positive action. This sometimes implies that we have to take risks.

Why denial is the number one self-limiting obstacle?

Denial means to hide or ignore that we are facing a problem or dealing with challenges. Denial provides a set of myths and excuses to keep us from progressing. When we are in denial we use lots of excuses and blame to justify lack of action or passive interpretation of things. If you are in denial you most commonly use these terms:

• I don't want to be the center of attention. 
• I prefer to keep my mouth shut. 
• This is just temporary. 
• I will not be fired; I am indispensable. 
• I am waiting for the storm to pass.

These passive phrases provide us with justification or rationalization for something that is not working out and let us maintain the status quo. We are able to comfortably maintain the same state of mind and stay in our comfort zone. Self-limiting beliefs have also to do with poor self-esteem. Thoughts that accompany self-limiting beliefs include:

• I am not good enough for that job. 
• I do not have the right personality for that job. 
• Nothing I do is ever noticed by others. 
• Only good-looking people are successful. 
• Maybe next year I can try that. 
• I don't have a voice in this company. No one every listens to me. 
• My family have been in poverty forever and I don't expect this to change.

When these types of thought occur it is necessary to turn them around. Rather than thinking thoughts like those above, turn them around:

• I am good enough and I deserve that job. 
• My needs are as important as everyone else's needs. 
• I may not look like a movie star but I have talent and personality and these qualities are more important for success. 
• I can handle pressure I am a great multitasker. 
• Poverty is not fate. I am resourceful and dynamic and I am working towards change.

Our thoughts about ourselves, or our physical traits or talents and skills reflect how we act in front of others. Are we proud of our skills or do we try to keep them to ourselves in the hopes that we will be seen as being humble? Humble, by the way, means "teachable" and not shy, retiring and unassuming. Successful people, on the other hand, are more committed and determined to make sure everybody knows that they are the most qualified person for the job, promotion, business deal or transaction. There is no room for humility or passivity in their lives.

People who know how to overcome self-limiting beliefs find other ways to deal with change and the unknown. Don't think that you can't do it just because you have told yourself so many times that you don't have the right personality or talent that you actually believe yourself. Sometimes the worst thing that we can do is to believe our own thoughts. To enjoy a successful and more exciting life, a place of possibilities and dreams, we have to learn how to transform our self-limiting beliefs into self-empowering beliefs.

Solutions

You can identify beliefs that are self-limiting, beliefs that are not serving you or that are limiting your success, and replace them with positive ones that support your success. Here are some ideas to help you on this exciting quest:

• Make a list of what isn't working in your life. 
• Determine the most important areas of your life that need attention (family, career, love, finances). 
• Review your goals and focus on a successful future. 
• Ask a trusted friend or colleague what beliefs you seem to be manifesting that are not helping you move forward. 
• Ask yourself insightful questions, do some inner work: write a journal, create your ideal day. 
• Face what isn't working first, create a strategy plan. 
• Make a list of positive things you wish to happen to increase your chances of success. 
• Acknowledge your successes and achievements, remember you are greater than you think. 
• Seek competent professional coaching; an NLP coach can help you developed effective intra-person and inter-personal communication skills. 
• Seek a trained hypnotist to help you eliminate self-sabotaging beliefs and self-criticism that are not serving you and help you create a new set of self-talk words and mental programming for success.

Everything starts with your thoughts and mental processes. Words have power and it is important that you learn to use them correctly to your advantage. Believing that you are worthy of love and respect creates an aura of appreciation around you. You deserve to be successful and you are worthy of everything you want to achieve. Don't settle for less than you deserve. Once you understand that, your confidence will soar.

About the Author:

Rosa C. Murphy, M.Ed. is a certified relaxation therapist, artist and mentor, and a leading teacher in the area of mysticism, healing and expressive arts.  She has extensively research the goddess, divine feminine, human art, mythology and different archetypes. She talks about gnosis to self- mastery and personal transformation. and educates people about the body mind connection, thought field, hypnosis, and the Universal laws directing our lives.  For more information about her services, teachings or to contact her please visit her web site at:

http://www.whisperingtranquilitystudio.com

How to Use Your Subconscious Mind for Anything You Desire

Your subconscious mind is extremely powerful.  If you program it in the right way there are no limits to what it can achieve for you.

Watch this short video by The Secret star, Bob Proctor, who will talk you through how to use your subconscious mind properly and achieve anything you desire:

3 Simple Steps To Stop Sabotaging Yourself

by

Natalie Ledwell

Sometimes we can be our own worst enemies. 

It's sad, but true… 

Even when we think we're doing all the right things, our subconscious can sneak out and undo some of our best plans. 

As a result, if we don't first get control of our deeply-rooted urges and addictions to past behaviors, creating our dreams can be a lot like trying to control a bull in a china shop. Not an easy task, right? 

So if you feel like you've been sabotaging your own success, and can't quite figure out exactly why or how it's happening, try these 3 simple steps for building a pen for the bull that might be living in your subconscious mind. 

Step 1 - Identify the bull in the herd

Our subconscious is a wonderful place full of ideas, instincts and intuition. These inherent traits make up who we are and how we act. For the most part, they are prized attributes. 

But, if your subconscious is sabotaging you, it needs to be wrangled in. 

• Spend some time in meditation focusing on what you DO want. 
• Then, move to the things you already do that can help you achieve those goals. 
• And lastly, try to identify the habits that are keeping you from success… 

If you're having a hard time identifying your bull or perhaps figuring out which is your dominant bull in the herd (I suggest dealing with one 'bull' - or your biggest obstacle - at a time)… 

Click here to find out what your number 1 success blocker is with this fun, quick quiz.

Then, once you've identified the bull that's keeping you from reaching success, try to… 

Step 2 - Separate the bull from the herd

You should never look a bull in the eyes, nor should we stare down our own inner struggles. Giving focused attention to your obstacle can increase the tension and allow your bull to go wild. 

Instead, try to find the root cause. 

Some people spend time toiling on the internet or watching TV, but focusing on watching TV won't change the way you feel or act. Rather, identify the main reason you're experiencing the problem. Why is it that you feel frustrated, unhappy or anxious? What is the real, 'deep down' reason that's causing you dissatisfaction? 

Once you have identified the obstacle (and separated the bull from the herd) next… 

Step 3 - Use the bull to grow the herd

After identifying the obstacle, you have a chance to embrace it and use it to your advantage. 

You simply need to find a way to meet the needs of your bull-ish urges, while not detracting from your main goals. 

Many of us have a need for nearly constant stimulation. I like to listen to music (rather than watching TV for example) while doing other things to provide that stimulus without completely distracting me from the task at hand. 

Whatever you see as being your biggest obstacle, you can always get to a point where it can be neutralized, or even better, used to your advantage.

The best way to get started is to practice visualizing yourself in the life you want, with clear intention and emotion. 

And to help you do that, first figure out what your #1 Success Blocker is, so you can more easily attract all of the things that matter to you the most. 

What are you waiting for? Get started now :) 

About the Author:

Natalie Ledwell is a Law of Attraction expert, bestselling author and speaker. She also hosts an online TV Show, The Inspiration Show, and is a co-founder of the personal development company, Mind Movies, which offers online courses and coaching programs, like Ultimate Success Masterclass. Natalie is passionate about helping others to achieve their greatest dreams and ambitions through personal transformation.

Find out more about Natalie and Mind Movies by visiting 

http://www.mindmovies.com/index.php?25923.

Change Blindness

Do you sometimes despair and feel that you are not making any inroads at all into the changes you want to make in your personal development?

If you are not using any of the correct techniques, particularly proper goal setting, mind movies and other various law of attraction techniques, then maybe you need to start applying them right now.  There is plenty of material you can find to help you on my blog, and even more for those of you who receive a regular e-mail from me (if you don't receive any yet, just enter your name and e-mail address in the box to the right of this blog, the one that says "I Want Them Now!", and you will get some free e-books to help you as well as my regular e-mails).

But even if you are moving in the right direction it is easy to believe you are not.

One reason is that our minds are not at all good at recognizing change.  So even if you have made good progress you may simply not be seeing it properly.

Most of us cannot even see when things around us have changed physically.  Psychologists refer to this as "change blindness".

If you don't believe me (or even if you do!) try out this interesting experiment, kindly provided by students at the University of Idaho:

http://www.gocognitive.net/demo/change-blindness

Personally I found this very difficult.  I took ages to see something that had clearly changed right in front of my nose.  How about you?

Well if you cannot even see the changes around you, then do not be at all surprised that you don't notice changes within you.

The next time you are tempted to say you have made no progress, or even just too little progress, try this simple exercise.  Instead of focusing on where it is you want to be, take a look at where you used to be.  You may be surprised, once you do this, by just how far you have come, especially if you have been working on this goal for some time.

Help Your Children Wish Upon that Star

Who doesn't remember a time when they were young and wished upon a star?  Do you remember the hopes and expectations you had waiting for your wish to come true?  Why not evoke these same feelings in your own children?

Children can wish for so many different things these days.  They may wish to visit Disney World or they may want to spend the summer camping.  Or they may want something smaller such as a new toy.

Instead of wishing upon that star you can encourage your children to turn this wish into a goal.  Get them to write down this new goal and then together you can figure out how they can reach their goal.

Remember that it is never too early to teach your children the benefits of setting goals.  If you set your own goal at the same time you can show them that it is acceptable to change and tweak your goal as you go along.  It is very common for a goal to start as one thing and along the way it develops into something different.

The entire process of setting goals and reaching them can help your children in many different ways.  This includes helping them improve their self-esteem and self worth, and helping them boost their confidence levels.

In addition to the above benefits they will learn that they can reap rewards from setting goals.  This also helps them with developing a sense of purpose that will carry through the rest of their lives.

Setting goals either by wishing on a star or writing them down will show your children that they can have certain things that they want.  They will discover that the process can be fun and that dreams can and do come true.

Younger children will probably love the aspect of wishing upon a star while older kids will benefit more by writing them out and creating actionable steps.  Just remember to help your children make this a fun process along the way.  If the goal is too lofty you’ll need to help them break out the smaller steps that eventually lead to their larger goal.

Encourage older children to visualize themselves with what they are trying to achieve.  They may want to be able to shoot lots of baskets without missing.  Get them to visualize this as they close their eyes and see themselves shooting those baskets.

Another way to help your children reach their goal is by planning out their goals in more detail.  This can be done by creating more of a step by step plan with them.  This way they can see exactly what they have to do, and in what order, to achieve their goals.

During this process your children will see that wishes do come true by using a plan of action.  They will see that abstract desires and wishes can become a reality, especially when they decide to take action and do something about it.

Getting your children to set goals is an extremely powerful thing and something that will benefit them during their entire lifetime.  They will learn how to make plans, set goals and carry them out.  You are putting power into your child's hands.

These techniques can be applied to many different situations including doing homework, learning a new skill and taking exams.  Older children can plan out their steps for going to college and for choosing a career by making related goals.

Making wishes and setting goals can easily become a family affair.  Get everyone involved and see if you can't develop one strong goal or commitment for the entire family.

Wish Upon a Star

In the Disney film "Pinocchio" the beautiful falsetto voice of Cliff Edwards brings us that wonderful song "Wish Upon a Star".  I have included both a recording of the song and the lyrics below.

Most people think of this as a lovely fantasy for children, but nothing to do with real life.  They could not be more wrong.

I am not saying you need a falling star in order to make your wishes come true.  But if you look closely at the lyrics you will find so much in there that really is true.

Perhaps the most important and truest part is this: "Anything your heart desires will come to you if your heart is in your dream".  Truly put your heart into an affirmation and that affirmation will make your wish come true.

Spend some time now inwardly digesting these powerful lyrics as you listen to Cliff's sweet voice, and then make them a part of your manifesting strategy!

When you wish upon a star

Makes no difference who you are

Anything your heart desires

Will come to you.

If your heart is in your dream

No request is too extreme

When you wish upon a star

As dreamers do.

Fate is kind.

She brings to those who love

The sweet fulfillment of

Their secret longing.

Like a bolt out of the blue

Fate steps in and sees you through.

When you wish upon a star

Your dreams come true.

Fate is kind.

She brings to those who love

The sweet fulfillment of

Their secret longing.

Like a bolt out of the blue

Fate steps in and sees you through.

When you wish upon a star

Your dreams come true.

Affirmations that Work

Have you ever really wanted something badly, and sat there saying something like "I really wish I had .....!"?  The gap might be filled with "loads of money", " a great boyfriend", "a big mansion in the country", "more confidence" - you name it!

Or how about "I wish I wasn't .....!"?  This might be "so fat", "so poor", "so lonely", "so nervous" etc.

Well if you have done that, at least it shows something within you understands the need for affirmations.  But unfortunately the first of these formats is so weak it is more likely to give you the opposite of what you want, and the second is far worse and is almost CERTAIN to give you the opposite!

An affirmation is a positive statement that focuses your mind on something you want to achieve, but does so in such a way that you begin to believe subconsciously that you already have it, and that also (ideally) is associated with positive energy and feelings about what you "have achieved already".  It works by aligning you with whatever it is you want, and sending a message to the Universe to attract that to you.  If you do it properly it is just like the law of gravity - it cannot fail.  But note carefully - I did say "if you do it properly"!

The problem with most attempts at affirmation is that they are in the wrong tense, not associated with great feelings, and very often stated negatively.

Here are the three rules on creating affirmations that really work:

1. Always frame your affirmations as a positive statement, not a wish or want and NEVER a negative statement.
2. Always frame your affirmations in the present tense, not the future.
3. Always associate strong positive emotions with each affirmation.

Here is an example of what I mean:

"I wish I didn't live in this awful house in this terrible town!"

This statement is guaranteed to keep you trapped in exactly what you don't want.  Even if you move it will just be to another awful house in another terrible town!  Why?  Because your subconscious mind is a bit like a rather stupid giant (or sometimes a badly programmed computer).  It hears the words "awful house" and "terrible town" and responds by attracting these things to you.  Your fault - you have written the program badly!

But now listen to this:

"I live in a wonderful house in a really great neighbourhood!"

See the difference?  Now you will start attracting whatever it is that will get you set up in that wonderful house in a really great neighbourhood!  Especially if you start visualizing it, imagining yourself living there, and start recognizing how great it makes you feel.

Take a look at whatever it is you want to achieve and start working out the right affirmation for it, following the three rules I have given you.  Then make sure you USE your new affirmation, repeating it when you wake, during the day, and before you go to sleep.  See just what a difference that begins to make in your life!

If you want to get a great series of positive affirmations to help you achieve your goals, try these here:

"Goal Affirmations"

If you want to take rule 3 even further I suggest you make what is called a "Mind Movie" which will really instill those positive emotions and make your affirmation so much more effective.  You can find out more about "Mind Movies" by going here:

"Mind Movies"

Achieve Any Goal

Do you have some goals in life you would really like to achieve?  If not, you have probably come to the wrong blog!

In this short video by John Assaraf, one of the stars of "The Secret", you will learn how you can visualize, affirm and achieve any goal:

If you want to get a great series of positive affirmations to help you achieve your goals, try these here:
"Goal Affirmations"

If you want to what John Assaraf says to the next level I suggest you make what is called a "Mind Movie" which will really instill positive emotions and make your affirmations so much more effective. You can find out more about "Mind Movies" by going here:
"Mind Movies"

Meditation and Stress

by

Winnie A McBride

Stress is one of the biggest problems in our society today. Many of the issues that people have with their health, performance at work, and life in general can be linked to stress. It can also be linked to how they respond to the various types of stress in their lives. It is important to note that there are many different types of stress just as there are many different ways to meditate and obtain the benefits that meditation has to offer.

There are both good and bad forms of stress. The good type of stress is the type that triggers motivation and productivity. It is the type of stress that is primarily the pressure to succeed provided that that pressure does not become overwhelming to the point of obsession. This type of stress can be considered positive. Negative stress is the type that ends up translating into worry and anxiety as well as the feelings of helpless and hopelessness. This type of stress does nothing for the body and can have negative implications to the health of both the mind and the body.

Meditation offers the opportunity to eliminate negative forms of stress or turn them into positive influences. The mind is a powerful tool and is incredibly versatile. As a result, of this versatility meditation can help you to change the way you view stress, respond to stress and use stress in your life. Generally, individuals respond to stress negatively when there is a conflict or past issue, which the stress triggers. This could be a time when work was viewed negatively and there was a direct effect on productivity for example.

Meditation allows you to view thoughts in a singular fashion and can help you to analyze and take notice of small things, which you may not be consciously aware of that are causing you to respond in a particular fashion. By resolving these issues, or altering the way you think about them, something that is easy to do when you are in the quiet calm created through the meditative state, you can change how you handle the stress in your life.

This may sound difficult to do but it is remarkably easy once you learn the process and become familiar and comfortable with it. It is a good idea to start with using meditation as a relaxation technique. This gets your body and mind used to reaching the calm meditative state necessary to ensure your success. You may want to experiment with various techniques to find the one that works best for you. Guided meditation techniques work well for individual who are just beginning to look into meditation and its benefits. These techniques are designed to walk you through every step of the process. This can help to eliminate any worries or anxieties that you may have about getting started. Once you become experienced in meditation you can easily reach the calm meditative state with just a few breaths and change how you are responding to the stress created from both internal and external sources.

If you need more information on meditation go to http://selfhelpscoop.com/. You can find information on other self-help topics there too.

Brain Entrainment

If you are serious about improving yourself you may already have come across the term "brain entrainment".  Perhaps you have even used it yourself.  There are numerous self-improvement products in the market which use brain entrainment as an integral part of their process.  But what actually is it?  Is it safe to use, and does it work?

You probably already know that different states of mind are associated with different brainwave frequencies.  If you can change the frequency, you can change the state of mind.  For example, you can induce sleep, become happier, more positive, more able to achieve whatever it is you want to achieve.

There are various ways of altering your brain frequency.  One very powerful method is meditation.  Another is using sounds which cause your brainwaves to fall into step with them - and this is what is meant by brain entrainment.  Regular use of either meditation or brain entrainment techniques will allow you over time to be able to enter your required state of mind at will without relying on any external stimuli or formally entering into a meditative state.

Brain entrainment could be compared to an effect the Dutch scientist Christiaan Huygens discovered over 350 years ago.  What Huygens discovered was that if you lined up a series of pendulum clocks all slightly out of time with each other they would eventually all move in time.  Likewise, if your brain receives a signal slightly out of step with its own brainwaves, those brainwaves change and fall in step with the new signal.  This is brainwave entrainment in a nutshell.

It is perfectly safe to use, although if you have a medical condition such as epilepsy or are otherwise prone to seizures you should consult your physician before attempting to use it.

Certainly it works, as long as it is used properly.

If you are interested in finding out more about how brain entrainment could be used to help you with your own self-improvement efforts, check out this video:

"Brain Evolution System"

Willpower and Goals

Are you the type of person who has a lot of willpower to see a project through to its completion or do you feel your willpower is lacking? While many people think that some people have more willpower than others this is simply not true. Everyone has the same amount of willpower - what is different is the way you choose to use your willpower. 

It is easy to blame your lack of willpower for the choices you make and for giving up. How many times have you heard someone say, "I just don't have the willpower to follow through?"

The real question is: Do you really want to achieve your goals, or are you happy to continue using the excuse that you do not have enough willpower?

If you really want to achieve your goals, then you certainly can.  You simply have to make sure you have the right mindset and know you can achieve them. Make sure, though, that you are setting realistic goals. You may find, for example, a goal to run this year's marathon may be unrealistic if the last time you did any exercise at all was 10 years ago!

Take a look at each of your goals and make sure it IS realistic within the timescale you are setting for it. Sit quietly and envision yourself achieving it. If you can do this, great! If not, it may be time to scale back on it a little until you really can visualize the right outcome. Then, as you progress towards that goal you can always expand it until eventually you are achieving the original goal which was initially too ambitious.

I want to emphasize that "realistic" here has nothing to do with what others around you may be telling you. Your realistic goal may be considered far to ambitious by your friends and family, but that is not what counts.  What matters is what YOU can internalize as realistic.

Now that you have realistic goals, sit quietly again and picture yourself once you have achieved that goal. If your goal is to lose 10 pounds, visualize yourself wearing the clothes you will now be able to wear. See yourself in the mirror and admire your new, well balanced body. If your goal is to speak a new foreign language fluently, see yourself surrounded by native speakers of that language, having a great time with your new friends. Whatever your goal, really internalize all the positive outcomes of achieving it.

Do this frequently until it becomes a habit.

Create a picture board, or mind map, of your new life once you have achieved your goal. Just looking at this picture board should energize you and make you determined to achieve it.

Now, every time you feel your motivation lacking, your willpower slipping away, just look again at your picture board and visualize your life after you have achieved your goal. Do you feel your motivation return, your willpower strengthened? You certainly should! If not, you are either working on the wrong goal or you have not yet really visualized properly the difference it is going to make in your life!

Don't forget, of course, to create the write positive affirmations for your goal as well. I am not going to explore this important subject here, but check my blog and other positive sites for articles on affirmations if you are not completely familiar with how and why you should do this.

Shifting your mindset will probably not happen overnight. Usually it will take time and effort on your part. Just remember that nothing is impossible if you really want to achieve it, so your focus at the outset MUST be to ensure you have that strong desire to achieve it.

Finally, remember that goals change over time. You must be ready for this and adapt as necessary so you can continue to achieve your evolving goals.

Tips for Writing Your Own Affirmations

by

Cathy Chapman, Ph.D.

Affirmations are simple positive statements you make which reinforce something in your life. These statements can be about what you would like to have, such as riches and fame, or the type of person you would like to be, such as loving or assertive. You can always go to your favorite search engine and find affirmations particular to your situation. The best, however, are those you develop for yourself.

Here is a simple process in which you can do this.

Identify What You Want

Many people believe this is very easy. You may think you want riches, but you would really like security. When you say you want success, you may actually desire parental approval.

To discover what you truly want in life keep repeating the same question. That question is, "And what will that get me?"

For instance, you say you want a particular type of house in a specific neighborhood. Ask the above question. An answer might be, "It'll prove I'm successful." Now asked the question again. This time you might say, "People will notice me." Repeat the process. You might get, "People will look up to me." Keep doing this until you get a sort of ah-ha internal experience. Then you know this is truly what you want.

Develop Your Positive Statement

Now that you know your true desire put it in a positive statement using present tense. An example, "My family notices my success and congratulates me." If you follow the process above, this affirmation will be exactly what it is that you truly want. Yes, you may still have that house in mind, but that comes later in the process.

If you get your house, but don't get what you truly want, you will still feel dissatisfied and empty. The key is to uncover your deepest yearnings. When those are fulfilled you will experience joy and completion.

Identify How You Will Know You Have What You Most Want

This process actually works with your subconscious mind. It is your subconscious mind which silently guides and directs you by means of what it believes you want to happen in your life. Your subconscious mind is concrete, not abstract. You have to tell it what you mean by what you say. This is where that house you have your eye on comes in.

How will you know when you have achieved your desire? List three things you will see in your life when the statement, "My family notices my success and congratulates me" is fulfilled. This is where you identify things such as, "I have a house with four bedrooms and three bathrooms built to my specifications on an acre of land next to the water," "My children attend an elite private school and are at the top of their class," or "My income after taxes is $250,000 per year."

Once you have the three things you will see in your life which proves your success, get in touch with how it will feel, what people will say about you, and everything else involved in your achievement. Write it all down.

Anchoring It In

The last step is to use your affirmation while keeping in mind those marks of achievement. Do that now. Now touch your thumb to one of your fingers as an anchor to what it is you desire. Throughout the day repeat that statement of achievement keeping in mind the images, words and feelings which accompany it.

Just repeating this statement over and over will do very little. You need to bring with you the visual, auditory and kinesthetic experiences which accompany your accomplishment.

About the Author:

Cathy Chapman, PhD, LCSW has her doctorate in Mind-Body Psychology. She assists people in achieving their dreams of health, wealth and abundance. Her blog provides you with thoughts and tools for growth and success. Subscribe to her blog at http://www.cathychapmanphd.com and receive your free gift "7 Methods for a Practically Impenetrable Immune System."

Cathy says this about herself:

"My primary background is in spirituality, psychotherapy and mind-body psychology. I've been a therapist for 35 + years with almost all those years helping people heal using prayer and spirituality. The last 20 years have been devoted to expanding my tools to assist in healing through energy healing such as BodyTalk, PSYCH-K, encodements and Soul Healing.

Since I have an active mind with many interests, I also help people move beyond their fears and limiting beliefs in their business as well as their personal life. I have studied marketing for the last 15 years as well as copywriting. I write plr in the mind-body health area.

Since I left the convent in 1996, my spirituality has expanded into what some call New Age or metaphysics. It was the mysticism of Catholicism which moved me into the mysticism of the New Age.

I write in the areas of personal development, energy healing, spirituality, marketing, copywriting and business development.

I am at a stage in my life I only do things which are fun and interesting. Yes, I pay my taxes, but I rejoice I have an income. Life is good. I want to show others how to heal, change limiting beliefs and attain their dreams."

Good Habits

If I asked you to tell me about your habits, how would you respond?  Would you talk about smoking, drinking too much, snacking between meals?  Or would you refer to your daily practice of yoga, meditation, or affirmations?

Most people think of habits as something bad, and it is true most of us probably do have bad habits.  But the reality is that we also have lots of good habits.  And we can create more good habits if we really want to do so.

If you want to change something in your life, the way to do so is to create a new habit.  If you are afflicted or know someone with the smoking habit, or even addicted to hard drugs, you will know just how powerful a habit can be.  So use that power!  Decide what it is you want to change, work out what you need to do that is different in order to effect that change, then establish it as a habit.

I have already mentioned three great habits from which we could all benefit and which will have a fundamental affect on our lives if we make them an integral part of our life - yoga, meditation and affirmations.  Maybe you will choose to establish one or more of these as a habit.  Or maybe you will find something different - something that resonates with you and that you know you would really love to make it a part of your life.  Take your time and make sure you have found something really good - something that can really be "you".

Having found what it is you want to do, the next step is to make it a habit.  How exactly can you do this?

In his classic book "Psycho Cybernetics", Maxwell Maltz informs us that the same action repeated regularly 21 times becomes a habit. This could be something you will do every day, in which case in three weeks you will have established it as a habit.  Maybe it is something you will do every working day, in which case your habit will be established in a month.  Or perhaps you will do it once a week, in which case you will have a new positive habit in around five months.

In your first 21 repetitions be absolutely ruthless.  No matter what happens, tell yourself you MUST perform this action.  No excuses accepted.  Certainly do not fall into the trap of telling yourself it is ok to miss it one time and then do double (e.g. spend twice as much time) the next time.  If you do this you will be setting yourself up to fail.

But if something DOES happen which makes it impossible for you to do it, don't stress out.  This is another reason so many people fail, as they falter at the first hurdle.  Accept the situation, and just move on.  You have missed one repetition, so it just means it will take you slightly longer, that is all.  Don't let it happen too often, but also don't let it de-rail your plan to establish this good habit.

Once you have the 21 repetitions under your belt you have established your good habit.  You now do not have to be quite so ruthless.  If there is a good reason for missing one day (or one weekend, or one month, etc) then you can relax and accept that reason - because now you know that it is a habit, and the next time around you will still automatically be ready to do it.  Keep an eye on it, as habits can still be broken, but it should certainly no longer be the struggle you probably found it took in the first 21 repetitions.

Also, once you have established your new habit, look for another one.  Maybe you would like to learn a new language for example, or develop some other skill.  Make this the next good habit you will establish.  Not by replacing the first one, but by adding to it.  Keep doing this.  As each new skill, personality change, good practice etc becomes a habit for you, add another one.  Do this until you have established 21 new habits.  Why 21?  Because now you have established a habit of creating success habits - and you will have become unstoppable!

If you would like a copy of the book "Psycho Cybernetics" you can obtain one here:

http://tiny.cc/psycho-cybernetics

Law of Attraction is as real as gravity

by

Joe Vitale

You’ve probably heard about and maybe even practiced the “Law of Attraction” to bring better things into your life. 

It’s one of our brain’s most natural and powerful talents. Countless people all over the world have used this “law” to attract wealth and abundance to themselves and the people they love.

So why have so many more tried and failed?

The #1 question we ask when it fails to work for us is...

“If Attraction is actually a ‘law,’ then why won’t it work for me as automatically and effortlessly as gravity does? Why would you have to do anything to make it work?”

Well, the truth is that just like gravity, the Law of Attraction IS always working. You don’t need to do anything to make it “work”…

You just have to do something if you want to harness it and make it work for you. 

It took Isaac Newton and an apple falling off a tree to make us “aware” of gravity, and look at it with awareness and intent. And then it still took a few hundred years until we figured out how to fly. 

Well, the Law of Attraction is similar. All along, it’s been a force in your life. 

So why do so many people struggle to attract money? Struggle to bring abundance and happiness into their lives, when the Law of Attraction is all around them?

The fact is, if the Law of Attraction works all the time, and your own results fall short… then the difference must be in you. 

If you state an intention, and it doesn’t work, there’s a part of you that’s fighting with another part of yourself. 

You’ve probably heard the saying that we only use a small fraction of our brains. Well, 80 to 90 percent of our thinking is unconscious. 

We are like conscious icebergs with most of our thoughts happening beneath the water line, out of our awareness.

What this means is that what you consciously think isn’t anywhere near as important as what your unconscious mind thinks.

So when your intentions fail to manifest, all too often it’s because there’s an unconscious conflict of beliefs deep down. A conflict that may have been buried there since childhood. 

Some experts call these “counter-intentions,” and until you get “clear” of these hidden mental snags attracting the things you want in life is going to be very difficult. 

It’s like trying to drive a car with one foot flooring the gas and the other foot pumping the brake pedal. 

However, when you discover the simple process of eliminating this blocked thinking from your mind, it’s as if the flood gates are flung wide open and all the abundance you’ve been concentrating on and waiting for is suddenly “cleared for landing”.

See exactly how it works in this just released video that explains the new research and how people are now using the Law of Attraction more powerfully than ever before. The video is free (of course), available at the link below.

Watch now!

Groundhog Day

In the comedy film "Groundhog Day", Bill Murray plays a man who gets a second chance to achieve what he wants in life.  No, let's re-write that.  Not a second chance, nor a third, nor a fourth - but dozens and dozens of chances.  Every morning he finds it is the same day and he can repeat what he did "yesterday" but ironing out all the mistakes.  Eventually he becomes a brilliant pianist, medical expert, counsellor, and, of course (this is Hollywood, after all) gets the girl of his dreams.

I love that film, and if you will excuse the irony I watch it again and again.  Not just because I think it is a brilliant comedy, but because I love a couple of the messages that come through loud and clear:

1 It is never too late to try again.

2 There is always time to achieve whatever it is you want to achieve.

In the film, of course, there is a magical element - the fact that the same day keeps repeating.  None of us has that luxury unfortunately.  Well, not quite.  But in a sense we do have that luxury.  I don't know how many more days you have, and nor do you, but for most of us it is a very large number.  I fully expect to have several thousand more days in which I can work on my goals.  I might not get them all, but I probably will.  That gives me several thousand chances.  More than enough!  But at the same time, I know today could be my last day on earth, so I should live it as though it really IS my last day.

Have a good think about exactly what it is that you want to achieve.  When you know what that is, begin the exercise by knowing that you can achieve it.  Then break it down into small, bite-sized goals.  And for each goal, write down what you need to do in order to reach it.  Now all you have to do is find some time each day to work on achieving those goals.  If you have thousands of days to get there, even a very small chunk of the day will be enough.  I am sure you can find that very small chunk of time.

So get going right now.  Create your own Groundhog Day and reach out to achieve those goals!